Wednesday, June 5, 2013

The Nature of Men



The Book. If you haven't read the beginning of the book, stop right now and click here for the beginning of Chapter 1.
(continued...)

Part 2:

A Different Setting

     But men don't belong in church.

     As I sit staring ahead, listening to the sermon, pondering the back of the person's head in front of me, while he is pondering the back of the person's head in front of him, I wonder how we got here. I mean, I got here by way of the parking lot. A smiling man in an orange vest, no doubt cautious of the dangers of reckless, late church-goers competing with time on natural grass turf, waved me in.

     And I slid into my spot.

     So now I'm here.

     But, I have to admit, not much more thought was put into it. And I'll add, for the majority of us, not much more will be. We're not lazy, worthless bums or lumps of creamer-fed donut fat, although if we're lucky we rolled through the local donut shop drive thru (without stopping) and filled up on our weekly ration of double chocolate glazed before we arrived. Late.

     We're good men. We saved halves of cream cheesed bagels for our wives and iced coffees to get them through the struggles of wriggling the kids to Sunday School.

     Oh, yeah. And I almost forgot. I did my manly duty this morning. I picked out the family pew seat.

     And I slid into my spot.

     Not much more has been asked of me, and if I stick around, I have a feeling probably not much more will be.

     You see, I'm in church.

     And, like I said, men don't belong in church.

The Dilemma

     Now, I don't mean men shouldn't be in church, but that there is no place for them. Not in the current church.

     Let me explain. Guys throughout time have longed to fight, to strategize, to lead. To embark. To accept a top secret mission. We dream about jumping in front of bullets or kicking through walls and shooting bad guys who threaten lives of damsels in distress, who in turn fall madly in love with us as we gingerly sweep them off their feet. Without breaking a sweat (or an appendage). And without a post-rampage chiropractic appointment. We want something real. Like that. Well, make-believe real, anyway. Something with action and feet sweeping.

     Really, we want an exciting mission that's romantic. Life or death. The stakes raised. The future resting on us.

     And that's how we feel about church, too. Give us that kind of call, and we're all in. Set us along the wall with a stack of service bulletins and a hello name tag and we're...unimpressed.

     So what does that mean for men? Where does it leave us now?

     Well, in the pages that follow, this book will unveil the simple, clear call of God on every man. It will reveal, through his design, that God has a plan, and the patterns we see in nature, the desires that stir deeply in our hearts, he intended to fulfill a crucial purpose. In every man. That means every man has a purpose in the church. It means you do. If true, this will have revolutionary implications.

     If man's nature is unique, if he was formed with a specific design--a blueprint, perhaps--of strength, initiative, and leadership at creation, then the church needs to change to match that. Not the other way around. In this culture, we often ask men to change to fit the church. Follow the rules, be quiet, fold your hands, find your pew, and please sit down. Or as I was once asked--if you're going to dance while worshiping, please stand in the back. We don't want you to distract anyone. When I politely mentioned David dancing before the Lord, I was told I would be welcome to find another church.

     Well, this isn't a book about dancing. It isn't about styles of worship, the top ten rules of how not to rock the half-submerged boat, or why fitting in is better than standing up. It is a book about men. It is about exactly who we are. But because it's about men, it's also about the church. The two are inseparable; one flows naturally out of the other.

     And the only way for the church to meet its true purpose is to fulfill the purpose of every person in it.

     To empower them in Christ, as men and as women. That is discipleship.

     But where does that leave us now? Unfortunately, as I think you'll see, it's not very far.

(stay tuned tomorrow for more or purchase your copy of the Paperback or Kindle version now!

The Mission. Let's check our progress...




Two days done and three days left -- we're on our way! Monday's sales were a combination of Monday and a number of early sales the week before, so Tuesday made improvement. We'll just need to finish with a few strong days to raise $1,000 for orphans.

Consider sharing about Breathing In and Breathing Out: Leader of Men today. I know, I know. You have. But in addition to social media, let's think of a few friends we could personally tell about it.

Word of mouth is the most powerful marketing, because friends trust you in a way they never would an ad or random post.


What would you tell them?  I'd tell them it's an inspiring book about empowering men to become leaders of men in their churches and families. It's a perfect $12 Father's Day gift, and the proceeds are donated to orphans. What's not to like? :)

If you haven't bought your copy, head over to Amazon now.

The Gifts. Thank you to everyone who has participated in release week! Be sure to fill out the form below so you're eligible for the daily prizes.

The winner of yesterday's $50.00 gift card for sharing the book with friends was Keith Vinson. Thanks Keith!

There was no winner for the book gift set, so I think we'll just change that division to a surprise gift for RAORing and allow people to choose if they want to participate or not.

Click below if you'd like to be entered for today's $50 gift card to one of your choice: Lowe's, Bass Pro Shop, or Outback Steakhouse.

The success of release week is because of YOU! I'm so grateful you've joined me in spreading a message that will inspire, challenge, and call men on to live boldly for Christ. To be leaders of men.



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Monday, June 3, 2013

Breathing In and Breathing Out -- Official Release -- Take Two!

(Okay, we're going to try this again, because my form company failed me yesterday. So I fired that company and hired a better one. Yesterday's gifts are available today -- Tuesday. Briefly enter your information anytime from now until midnight tonight. Thanks for your patience guys!)


Buy Breathing In and Breathing Out: Leader of Men now in Paperback or Kindle!

And now, the book...

Chapter 1 - The Modern Day Church

     Men don't belong in church.

     As I sit in the cove of my back porch, watching the white pines sway and toss before me, gusts showering small, dart-like missiles in surging waves across my lawn, I huddle into my chair a little deeper. Wind howls through the trees as a siren begins to wail in the distance, reminding that danger lurks out in the vast beyond. Overly aggressive fronts spatter across and into my hiding place, chilling me with cold, hard pellets of water. Impending dark clouds loom in the sky, warning with an occasional menacing boom of their approach. The Florida treasure coast has come alive with a fury that must have once sent the fiercest Seminole scurrying for cover.

     I should probably be inside. That is precisely the reason I'm out here.

     The deep forest that butts up against my house holds something majestic that beckons me. Perhaps it is mystery of the unknown. Today, perhaps, it is a conquest that reflects a battle within. A battle at this moment I'm winning, as I hunker down and take the brute force of the storm. At times like these, it calls in a way no magnitude of wetness or warning of danger can prevent.

     I was born to be here at this moment.

     I was born to live free, no to live or die in a great conquest, a sweeping story. However, my conquest may not be found underneath palmetto brush or in deep woods padded with beds of pine needles. I may be inspired there. But they can never keep me, not longer than the awe of exploring or rush of the outdoors, which wear thin. No, what I sense runs deeper. Something this raging wild before me reminds me of. Awesome and powerful, breathtaking yet surreal, it captures the fierceness of scores of warriors lined up for a combative rush yet the picturesque beauty of a Bride breathlessly awaiting a wedding day.

     And I'm sure of it now.

     Something more than me, my blanket, my chair, and the wild lingers out here in the cold. Something demanding a response. More than a feeling, it is an ache, a desire, or...calling.

     Perhaps that's what I've found out here in the storm, as the heavens pelt away at me with friendly fire, whilst I curl up under the safety of my little hideaway. A calling from within that was written on my heart since boyhood but etched in the stars long before.

     One so epic it becomes holy.

     A calling that leads me to the church.


(to be continued tomorrow...)
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That's right, we are officially published. The adventure has begun!





And we're moving toward our goal of raising $1,000 for orphans by this Friday at midnight.

So it's time to give away some gifts!

And it's time to RAOR.

Put up a social media post, tweet, blog post--whatever--even send an email, make a phone call, or stop your day to specifically honor a man from your church, neighborhood, job, or family in person to RAOR your Random Act of Respect. They all count! If it's on social media, mention the RAOR movement or add a #RAOR or #RAOR movement. 

Today's gift to one lucky person who RAORs is a masculinity and femininity gift set by acclaimed author Elisabeth Elliot: The Mark of a Man and Let Me Be a Woman!







Also, share Breathing In and Breathing Out today in a social media post, tweet, blog, email, phone call, or conversation with a friend you think would enjoy the book, and click below for a chance to win a $50 gift card to Lowe's, Bass Pro Shop, or Outback Steakhouse! The winner chooses. Sometimes just personally mentioning to a friend that they've gotta read this book is the most powerful message.

As a reminder, ALL proceeds from books bought today until Friday will be donated to orphans (providing for the fatherless). Thank you for honoring men, providing for children, and empowering the church!

May Breathing In and Breathing Out: Leader of Men bless you richly!


 

Sunday, June 2, 2013

The RAOR Movement (and Curling Up with a Good Book)


So it's official, Luke likes to read!







And darn cute at it, too!

Good timing, buddy, because Daddy has something really important to share with you...




Tomorrow, RELEASE WEEK begins and Breathing In and Breathing Out: Leader of Men officially releases!

Which brings me to the exciting part: I am giving away cool stuff every day on the blog, from Monday to Friday, to celebrate the release with you!

Breathing In and Breathing Out is a book to inspire and empower men, and it fits neatly before Father's Day (psst...Father's Day gift). But I don't just want to empower men. I want to honor them.

So I've come up with what I'm calling the RAOR movement. That's right. RAOR. It's a movement of Random Acts Of Respect on social media to men from your church, neighborhood, job, and family -- wherever -- who have influenced you positively and who would appreciate hearing it leading up to Father's Day.

Would you RAOR with me?

I want to create such a RAOR this week it is DEAFENING.

Just put up a social media post, tweet, blog post--whatever--even send an email, make a phone call, or stop your day to specifically honor a man. If it's on social media, mention the RAOR movement or add a #RAOR or #RAOR movement. Yep, it's that easy. Will you join me?

Every day this week -- Monday to Friday -- there will be an entry form on the blog. Simply click that you'll honor a father or man that specific day (in a specific way that you normally wouldn't). Each day I'll select one entry to win the day's gift. Every day, new prizes...new opportunities to win!

Tomorrow's gift is a masculinity and femininity gift set!! One lucky entry will receive a set of masculinity and femininity books by Elisabeth Elliot -- The Mark of a Man and Let Me Be a Woman!






Additionally, every day you can click that you'll share something about Breathing In and Breathing Out: Leader of Men that day in a social media post, tweet, blog, email, phone call, or conversation with a friend you think would enjoy the book, and you'll be entered for a chance to win a $50 gift card to Lowe's, Bass Pro Shop, or Outback Steakhouse. The winner gets to choose.

Every day two options: 1. RAOR  2. Share Breathing In and Breathing Out with friends

Two opportunities:  1. A gift set  2. A $50 gift card.

Will you RAOR with me?

Most importantly, I want to carry out the mission of the book through the sales on Amazon.com. So I'm donating ALL proceeds during RELEASE WEEK to charity (specifically orphans--the fatherless).

My goal is to raise $1,000 for orphans in 5 days, from Monday to Friday. I believe we can do it.

And now, your first bit of the book...Chapter 1 will be on the blog starting tomorrow!!

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INTRODUCTION

     Years ago, a friend Terry, my brother Richard, and I led a Christian club at the local public high school. After some discussion, we tried a bold move—we had the students lead everything. They planned meetings, gave talks, and led prayers. Surprisingly, far more students showed up wanting to lead than to participate.
     
     And in one of those moments when you recall someone beckoning you over and uttering a secret that has since changed your life, Terry leaned in and whispered a statement that stuck with me.
     
     “When natural leaders walk into a place where there are no opportunities to lead, they naturally leave.”
     
     I have never been able to shake it.

     That is what has happened with the church.


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Get ready to RAOR.

And to find a corner to curl up in with a good book.